The story has changed for the elderly couple, Ohio , please look.

http://www.herald-dispatch.com/homepage/x1298100986

THey are now saying the elderly couple that are missing are from Crown City Ohio, and was last seen here , at East Lynn, Wayne.

 

How very sad.  They must not have children, for surely if they did someone would have taken a car from them.  Just think, demented people behind the wheel.  I hope they're okay, but luck sure isn't on their side.

Yes, I agree. I just wonder. They must have been visiting family or friends here, for someone to have seen them. I haven't heard any more details. That is a long trip for them being in that kind of health. Even a short trip would be dangerous.

onebizzybee:

How very sad.  They must not have children, for surely if they did someone would have taken a car from them.  Just think, demented people behind the wheel.  I hope they're okay, but luck sure isn't on their side.

Too many times children won't stand up to their parents and help them face facts.  It's hard when you are dealing with adults.  You can't just take their possesions away from them.  You can urge them to stop, but legally your hands are tied.  This would be why I believe adults over a certain age should have to renew their license more then once every 8 years.

My mom has dementia. For years I have told my dad what a terrible driver she is. I know he loves her but I don't think he wants to belive that she shouldn't be driving because then he'll have to go everywhere with her. If my mom had to take a driving test I really think she would fail. She has never been a good driver. 

I was lucky with my mom.  She had surgery in the fall right before she was 87.  She couldn't drive for 3 months, and then it was winter, so I took her where she needed to go.  I was wondering how I was going to handle the subject when spring came and the roads were safe to drive on again.  But she surprised me and said she had been thinking it over, and she had decided she shouldn't drive anymore.  Problem solved.

JenniHusker:

......because then he'll have to go everywhere with her. ...... 

& there is the other reason people don't take responsibility for their parents.  They can't or won't be inconvenienced!  (I'm not speaking about your Dad Jen, just people in general)

We worried about my FIL before he passed. He was always going somewhere. He never wanted to mail a bill, had to go in person, if he could.  He let his grandson drive him there at the end of his years. If we had tried to take his license, he would have pitched a real fit, which he was really good at. But, i agree, some should not be driving. Testing would be good.

I hope they are found soon, and that they are okay. ***** My dear grandmother was in her eighties and still driving, but after several episodes of her getting lost, we had to take her car away from her. For a while she was lost without it, but I let her know that I would take her wherever she needed or wanted to go, so she was alright with that arrangement, and I didn't mind doing it for her...after all, she was so dear to me.***** DH and I worry about FIL, (DH's step-father) who is in his early 90's, lives alone in WA, AND IS STILL DRIVING. I really wish someone would take his car away from him. He does have family nearby, so it shouldn't be up to us.

 We had a terrible time taking my dad's car away from him. He's 90, and still mentally alert, but his reflexes are another story. His vision is also iffy. He refused to give up driving. He had to take driving tests every couple years. They get 3 tries to pass. He failed twice, but they passed him the third time. He also found a doctor who vouched for his ability to drive.

We finally found a doctor who agreed to tell him he could no longer drive. He was diagnosed with CHF, and DH and I went along on his doctor visit. As previously planned, the doctor looked at me and asked, "Any questions?" I asked if he could continue driving, and the doctor gave him a very long talk about why he can no longer drive. Since I was there as a witness, Dad couldn't bluff anymore. He was 88 when he gave up driving. The people on the roads of Illinois are a lot safer.At that same time dad was also finally forced to get a full-time caregiver for him and Mom. Two birds with one stone. He fought us on that.

Anyway, don't judge families who have a hard time getting the keys away from strong willed parents. It's very hard to tell them what they can and can't do, especially when they're mentally sharp. And also especially if they had a military career and were used to barking out orders intead of taking them. And the state doesn't cooperate with families. We tried to go that route. 

I happen to know this family.  They did have a family member with them and she was forced out of the car when they stopped to go to the restroom.  They also have other family that tries to take care of them, but she managed to get away when they stopped.  She is very confused and is not sure where home is.  She could be heading to the northern part of Ohio or even Florida.

Do not always assume that just because elderly people with health problems are out on their own that there is no one to take care of them.  Sometimes they are able to get away without anyone knowing it.  Most of the time they only have one caretaker and unfortunately they cannot be everywhere at once and they do get tired.  We are hoping and praying that they will be found safe.

i hope they are found too. They are suppose to have some family on the news here soon.

Who was forced out of the car? A caretaker? I lost you there, somewhere.

It was just on. I understand now. They had an argument, and Mrs. Frye left the Aunt of her DD there.

They said they could have headed to their old home in Cleveland. They spent 4 hours this morning in the helicopter looking for the car, but, didnt' see it.

I sure hope they are ok.

 My parents were both getting way beyond the point where they drove safely.  Mom would get lost in town while driving.  My siblings took the car away and left it at my sisters.  Parents called the police and said the car was stolen by my sister.  It got quite ugly for awhile. The police came and understood the situation and did not make an arrest. My parents were like wildcats trying to get the situation under contol.  Dad died last April and Mom is alone in her house just living her life out.  It is hard to take control of control freaks which they always were.  It MUST be done however.

Do not hesitate to do what is best.  You will be saving more heartache in the future.