May 2008 Depression Support

Well it's another month girls!  Where did thet time go?  Seems the older I get the faster time flies.

I have to do testing for the job I interviewed for yesterday.  I don't think it'll be a big deal, but I know the typing test is done on a regular keyboard, and I have a laptop, so it should be interesting.  Then I have two other appointments, one with my psychologist and the other with my chiropractor.

When I was in Abilene the other day I saw a DVD I almost bought.  It was a double movie - Spaceballs and Robin Hood: Men in Tights, two good Mel Brooks movies.  I tried to get it here but of course our Target store didn't have it so now I have to back to Abilene.  Boo Hoo.  I'm planning on dragging (kicking and screaming LOL) back up there next week.  We're planning on doing nothing more than goofing around this time as neither of us has any appointment up there.

What's going on in your neighborhoods today? 

 I'm cleaning the office. Well, I will be once I get my butt out of this chair!

 Hi, all.  It is hard to believe it's May already.

I need to get out and go grocery shopping.    Ugh!    Sometimes I dread going.  But, thank God, we have plenty of food.  I have no right to complain

Have a super day, everyone. 

Happy May Day.....pretend that I dropped baskets off at your front doors>  (We did that as kids, did any of you?)

I took DD#3 to get a chicken pox vaccine yesterday- they did not have them when she was starting school 11 years ago.......anyway, within 2 hours- she began feeling achy, nausa, etc....and fell asleep on the couch at 630p.  Don't know if it was an odd coinisidence - or reaction.

Pll- sounds like a good excuse to have a "monkey business day to go to Albilene"

Jo- I have grown to really dislike the grocery trip.....it's like cleaning house, it is a chore that never stays done.  I spend so much time in grocery stores with the catering I do- that if I am not at home, or at the office- you can find me at the grocery store.......what a big social life I have.

Jenny- hopefully the office does not need much cleaning, do you ever watch wife swap?  I get a kick out of some of them.  Last night was one that did not clean- and another at the other extreme. 

Leora, and Punkin- really missing the daily chat with you.......check in when you can- even if it's just a moment.

 Hi everone. Happy May Day! Yes, Kallee, we delivered May Baskets as kids and so did DS. It was the tradition to leave them on the front porch, knock or ring the doorbell and run.  Well a  neighbor couple that weren't from Nebraska called our parents and told them we were knocking on the door and running away. They didn't even see the baskets.

I'm cleaning the office. Half way done.

Jenni with an "i"

anyone know where the May Day basket custom came from? 

PLL, I hope you get a job you love.

Kallie, I bet you DO spent a lot of time in grocery store.  Sometimes I don't mind shopping, and like you said, sometimes it's a chore.  I have no idea where the May basket custom started.

Hi, Jenni.  Get that office clean and go relax.

Do you ever have breakfast for dinner?   Every once in a while, I like to do that.  I made biscuits, gravy and ham for dinner today.  DH and I consider it a nice treat.

oeg1kallee:

Pll- sounds like a good excuse to have a "monkey business day to go to Albilene"

Speaking of monkeys, when Judy and I were in Target the other day every time she saw something with a monkey on it she said "Monkeys!".  There were towels, glasses, all kinds of bath stuff.   So every time we turned around she was yelling "Monkeys!".  Mind you, Judy is 59 years old!  I began to wonder what the folks around us thought was going on!

 I know I don't come in often...and I do sometimes read some of the posts, but a month's worth is a little intimidating, for me. 

Anyway, I just got the most incredible jolt that you can imagine, and I'm having a hard time putting it in perspective. 

Background: I got a FaceBook page at the suggestion of my brother, only so we could keep contact with each other, if we lost contact other ways....we'd lost contact in the past for about 15 years. I've not used the account and had it for 6 weeks or more. Well, Sunday morning, I was thinking that I'd not heard of Lisa, an old friend, for more than 10 years, and I wondered how she was doing. Well, don't you know that, on Tuesday, she sent me a message on FaceBook! We talked on the phone for HOURS last night. Anyway, she is the only person who has looked for me in the 8 years since I escaped my marriage..... she'd been a buddy since she was in high school, and my kids were little, so she babysat for us a few times... lives about 1,000 miles away, so visiting is not an option....her kids are in their teens now. Anyway, she'd come to visit us once, when I was still married, and then she visited my ex and adult kids a couple of times. I always figured he had her in mind as a replacement for me, anyway,a nd as far as I was  concerned, she'd have been welcome to him. Except that I like her too much for her to suffer ....anyway, she told me some things that he'd said and done that just blew me away. Lies about me, and why I left, lies about not knowing where I was.... and besides his drinking, his behaviour. I was absolutely stunned at some of the things she was saying he was doing and all...especially living off our kids and their incomes! My daughter actually offered to buy him a plane ticket to a job anywhere else! Geez, he sleeps on the floor in their apartment! He's out of work more than he's working, and he sits at the computer, waiting for monster.com and potential employers to contact HIM! And that's certainly not the worst of it....I just am so stunned at the crap he's pulling... and gets away with! When Lisa went to visit there on Easter a few years ago, she wanted to attend communion services at any local catholic church...he drove her to and right on past one, not letting her go at all! 

I am totally stunned that all my suspicions about his behaviour are true. He was telling everyone that I'd left to live with a man that I'd met on the internet! (I'd certainly love to meet this man....anyone know who he is?) He wouldn't even let Lisa check her emails, because, in his words, he'd already lost one to the internet, and he wasn't going to lose another! 

My head is in an absolute whirl about this, and I just don't know WHAT to think. I knew he was an alcoholic, has what I believe to be a personality disorder, is controlling and abusive....but from a distance, it's scary, the scope of it, and to hear this from someone stepping temporarily into the circle.... he was going to move to Lisa's town, as he could find a job there (suuure) and beg a room, or whatever, from her, but his most important question was not about transit, or access to grocery stores, but how close to the beer and liquor store! I'm SO glad she had the good sense to be evasive and avoid him for some time after that.

I know this has been long, and I've cut it down considerably....

Okay, now, please, just reassure me, that I am not guilty by association, for his sins and behaviour.  

ViolaB 

Gosh, Vi.  Sounds like he's a little on the nutty side, if you know what I mean.  You are certainly not guilty by association.  YOU didn't do anything wrong.  He's the one who has the problem and he needs serious help for it. 

As far as his living off your kids, if your kids are letting him then unfortunately they're just enabling him.  They need to kick him out and let him figure out what he's going to do.  He won't do anything at all if they keep letting him sleep on the floor, etc.  He's a freeloader, and anyone who would have him is going to get stuck with him long-term.  He probably won't get a job or room or whatever on his own until someone presumably your kids, tell him to get lost.  As for his telling lies, eventually they'll catch up to him.

God only knows what my ex told his now wife about me during the time he was having his little fling with her.  I'm sure he must have told her a pack of lies, but after 8 years it just doesn'st matter any more.  He was a controlling jerk and I'm sure he still is.  Leopards don't change their spots.  I hope she's happy with him.  They deserve each other.

Please don't be afraid to post here, Vi.  We're more than happy to have you.  I know, sometimes we get pretty chatty and by the end of the month we've yakked our way through 10 pages of posts, but you don't have to read all of them.  We're all friends in here, no matter who posts.  

BTW, if you ever need to talk send me a PM.

Meredith 

Hi everyone.  

I was going to go to work at the hospital today but I had an abcess lanced and drained the other day and boy does it hurt.  It's right on my inner thigh where it gets irritated when I walk.  It's still draining yucky fluid too.  I think I'm going to have to call the doctor and find out if I need to see her again. All I know is that it's pretty uncomfortable.

It's been pretty warm the past few days.  Up in the 90s, but that's typical for West Texas this time of year.  Today's only supposed to be 88, so we'll cool down.  LOL

What up in your neck of the woods today? 

Welcome Vi! Sooo nice to see you here. I have an ex that must be related to your's.  He too thought I had met a man on the internet. Just let him think it. Deep in his conscience he KNOWS why you left. He is only making an ass of himself when he tells these far out stories -- you have to let that go. You are still giving him power in your life if you let him get to you like this.

You don't have to read all of the posts. Just post what's on your mind. Please come back often.

Sorry to hear about the abscess, Meredith. I hope it heals soon. 

Jo, I got the office done. I had to shut off the computer to do it but it's finished. What are you up to today?

Leora, I hope your day is as wonderful as you are. Please drop in and say hello.

Kallee, I guess you are probably queen of the supermarket. Do they roll out the red carpet when they see you coming? LOL  You'll have to share a new recipe or two with us. Take care Hun.

Pat, I would love to hear from you. Hope things are going well.

It's raining here and I hope it stops soon.

I'll make chocolate chip cookies today to take to Bubba's niece's house for dinner tonight. We are looking forward to seeing all of them. This is the step-dad that just adopted the grandnieces.  

My aunt, Donna, goes to her home in Corning, IA today after her radiation treatment. She'll go back to her DD's in Council Bluffs on Monday for treatments Mon - Fri of next week.

Well, I'm short enough to be an elf but I bet my cookies don't taste like Keebler's. LOL

Jenni   

Meredith. Which month were you born in?  

JenniHusker:

Meredith. Which month were you born in?  

March, why?