Bad Day Today

 Woke up in a depressed mood, couldn't shake it. Then my Dad called, and reminded me that my Moms birthday was yesterday. I got so upset!! I have NEVER forgotten my Mom's birthday, and it made me almost cry to think I forgot this year!! I do not want my memories of her to fade! Went to the nutritionist and felt a lot better when I came out, but that didn't last long. Am supposed to be hanging out with a man tonight but I almost hope he doesnt call cuz I dont know if I feel up to it. My sister says I should hang out with him and it will improve my mood, and she is probably right, but when I feel like this I don't even want to get showered, dressed, ready, go out in the cold, etc.

I do understand a bad spell.  I am doing good right now but know I need to build skills so that next it doesn't take me down as far or I can stop the downward slide before it goes to far.

These are things I am trying to learn in therapy.  I have two more days of my 1/2 day therapy next week then will only have my therapist every other week till the end of the year.  Insurace can get in the of getting better.

I will continue my Emotions annoumous meetings. both the Monday night meeting and the online program.

 The day therapy we are working on DBT skills (Dialectal Behavior Therapy).  I had not heard of this until this eppisode.  It does seem to be helping and making scence to me.  Here are some suggestions for you.

Distress tolerance options for when you feel sad, melancholy, depressed, unhappy

Forgetting your Mom's birthday is not forgetting her!  Don't be so tough on yourself. As for your funk, as I call it, BC1958 listed some great things to cope.  I try to make myself do things when I get like this.  I know it is hard, and sometimes I fail, but I feel so much better if I work my way out of it.  I hope that you decided to hang out with your guy friend.  Let us know how it went! 

I know exactly how you feel.  I've had many an episode like that from bipolar disorder.  BC has some great ideas to cope with your depression.  Maybe you should also see your primary doctor to see if you might need an antidepressant.  They do wonders for your mood.  The big tlhing about them is that you have to stick with taking them because if you go off them arbitrarily you'll feel worse than you did before.

You're also doing the right thing by going to a therapist regularly.  You'll be able to talk it through with him/her that way. 

And like Kelly said, missing your mother's birthday isn't the worst thing in the world.  It really doesn't mean that you've forgotten her at all.  It just means that you're going throuogh some difficult times. .  Maybe she already knows, but you might not klnow that yourself.  Talk to her and apologize. Bring her some flowers and a nice card explaining your situation.   I'm sure she'll understand if you tell her.

purselamplady:

And like Kelly said, missing your mother's birthday isn't the worst thing in the world.  It really doesn't mean that you've forgotten her at all.  It just means that you're going throuogh some difficult times. .  Maybe she already knows, but you might not klnow that yourself.  Talk to her and apologize. Bring her some flowers and a nice card explaining your situation.   I'm sure she'll understand if you tell her.

I am not sure if you know this, but my Mom passed on 8 years ago But bringing her flowers and talking  to her is still a great idea!! I am trying to get my father to take me to the cemetary soon! 

purselamplady:

 

You're also doing the right thing by going to a therapist regularly.  You'll be able to talk it through with him/her that way. 

klotoole:

  I hope that you decided to hang out with your guy friend.  Let us know how it went! 

He actually decided to watch the Yankess win te World Series, but I will see him next week B4 my birthday

Dream- meds only work to thier best intent if you take them on a steady basis.  SOmetimes it takes weeks for them to take ahold, and if you go without- you are making yourself in a yo-yo situation that could actually cause more problems than solutions.....my humble opinion. 

oeg1kallee:

Dream- meds only work to thier best intent if you take them on a steady basis.  SOmetimes it takes weeks for them to take ahold, and if you go without- you are making yourself in a yo-yo situation that could actually cause more problems than solutions.....my humble opinion. 

Oh, I know that... I have been on meds since I was 19, eexcept for the past year and a half. What I meant it that if the depression comes back steadily for more than a week or so, then I will see about going back on meds. But right now, I just have the ocassional bad day, but more good ones.