Let me tell you about my oldest, I know I'm gonna ramble and vent.
DD#1 was born a neat freak. She wouldn't feed herself for the first couple of years, because her fingers might get dirty. She wouldn't get rid of any of her babystuff, like her bottle or soother. Now I realize, she just can't get rid of ANYthing! She is sentimental to everything that crosses her path. Everything means somthing to her, and if she got rid of it, it would be like throwing out part of her heart with it. Give her a rubber band and a stick, and she is a happy kid. Give her dirt to play in, and she is the messiest 9 year old on the block. She went from neat freak to "Who cares" overnight. She finds things that she doesn't know what it is, and makes a purpose for it. I washed DS window screen, and unthinkingly, left it in the basement last night. Well, low and behold, when I went to tuck the girls in last night, here was the screen, I believe she was using it as a goali, because she had DS brand new ball, and was kicking it hard, and the screen was all bent up!!! I almost sreamed at her! If she doesn't know what it is, she gives it a purpose! I told her in no uncertain terms, that if it was not hers, she was not to touch it!! She is the typ, when she plays, she must see all items in one single glance. That means nothing is left in the toy box, it is all lined up on the floor or bed, or maybe even the stairs. If only I would allow her, the 13 stairs would be her own world, ever stair would be a kindom of its own. And every toy would have it's purpose. Even if it was broken.
She loves people, she is a social queen. When company is expected, she will wait outside, and if they are 30 seconds late, she runs inside asking why they are late! THen when they drive up, she runs up and jumps all over them like a puppy dog! I feel I do not need a dog, I already have her to teach "Stay down" "sit" "stay" I'll be walking along, and she will come up to me, and grab ahold of me, practically making me fall. Doesn't matter if I'm carrying somthing, cause she would never notice! She will plow right over her little brother, and not even notice. He might be crying because of it, but she still will not notice. You point it out to her, and she will say "oh, I didn't see him" And that's that!
you tell her somthing, in one ear, out the other. Consequences mean nothing. As long as it's good right in the moment.
But get her out of here, and she is a different gal. She has a report card that will blow you away, with I think the year end was 96.9%, with some subjects being a 99% average. She can understand subjects that are above her grade level. She is extremly artistic and creative. Told to write a story, she will do it with all her heart, and the neat writting/printing will blow your mind! Peole come and tell me what an amazing DD we have, how respectful and well behaved she is. I've asked her teacher so many times how she behaves in school, and I hear nothing but excellent report! I am starting to think I may have a creative genius on my hands, and I don't know how to deal with it!! I dont' want to kill her spirit, but she drives me insane, and she is only 9!!!
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